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Your Body Deserves More Care Than It Gets

Health is like money; we never have a true idea of its value until we lose it.  -Josh Billings
Amid our exciting fast paced lives where we dash for almost everything with an urge to get things done perfectly and within time, what we often don’t take into consideration is caring for the most important means by which to achieve these things: our bodies. With all the exertion that is rendered upon our body, it certainly deserves a bit more care and relaxation than it usually gets.

To suggest ways for the same, we at Therapy on Demand bring you some useful ways by which your body can get some pleasing respite from the constant battering that it must go through in this non-compromising world.

Regular Workouts

Regular workout is one of the most effective and feasible ways of not only keeping your health in check, but also feeling full of life throughout the day. For all those who think that physical exercise would further exert their overworked bodies and prefer tranquilizers to realize the desired results have something enlightening for themselves to experience here. Evidence suggests that none of the currently used tranquilizer, pain killer, and narcotic drugs can be used without risking side effects and/or addiction. Many people have contended that physical exercise relieves anxiety, but until recently no experimental evidence has supported this subjective conclusion. Dr. deVries examined this hypothesis by reviewing available data and surveys of expert opinion and controlled psychological and physiological experiments. He believes that appropriate types, intensities, and duration of exercise can produce a significant tranquilizer effect. Rhythmic exercise such as walking, jogging, cycling, and bench stepping for 5 to 30 minutes at 30% to 60% of maximum intensity was most effective.

A Penn State University study found that people who exercised, whether it was a mild, moderate or vigorous workout, had more pleasant feelings than those who didn’t. These same people were also happier on days when they were more physically active than usual, meaning that upping the ante on workouts can provide even more of a happiness boost. The takeaway? Working out can make you happy long term; adding extra intensity can make you feel even better.

Another experiment used a smartphone app to have participants track their activity, location and happiness levels throughout the day. It received more than 3 million responses a year — and users were at their second-happiest post-workout.

Regular workout apart from keeping your body in good shape also looks after your muscles and helps to improve blood circulation. The key components of a good workup are: warm up, cardio, strength, and cool down/stretching. A free, simple, full-body workout will be part of the free resources at Therapy on Demand.

Here are some examples of simple stretches (that should be gently held at least 30 seconds each) breathing):

Yoga and Meditation

Most people associate yoga with just physical exercise but in its original form it focuses more on the internal aspect of human beings.  Meditation is highly recommended especially while starting and ending your day. Even a short meditation session of 15-20 minutes in the morning and before going to sleep at night can do wonders.

Along with Meditation, physical yoga exercises are also an excellent way of reducing stress. A study of yoga-class beginners found that workouts left them less nervous and more energetic. Another study found that yogis go through life with lower stress hormone levels.

Yoga and meditation when practiced together strengthen the connection between the mind and the body. Many styles of yoga combine meditation with the physical routines, which use controlled breathing throughout the yoga poses. You can meditate without practicing yoga by simply relaxing, clearing your mind and concentrating on controlled breathing. Both yoga and meditation, when used consistently, have proven health benefits.

Some of the styles of yoga offered via private, virtual sessions from Therapy on Demand include:

Hatha Vinyasa flow which will help improve balance, strength, endurance, connecting movement to breath.

Detox Yoga is a hatha style class that includes poses to help put pressure on specific organs and will aid in metabolism function.

Yoga for Beginners - this utilizes props such as pillows, chairs, straps, blocks, etc and gently eases new clients into the world of poses

Chakra Yoga - this is a sequence of poses utilized to help balance the 7 main chakras, can be done as restorative, hatha or vinyasa flow.

O.M.M.M. -  this is a specially crafted yoga experience that incorporates various different components of yoga and focuses on Opening the chakras and the joints, Mantras which is the repetition of a word or sound to aid in concentration, Mudras which are hand gestures used to help shift energetic flow and are used in collaboration with Pranayama breathing techniques and a Manifestation Meditation to close the practice and leave students in a calm state and feeling balanced and connected.

Balancing Your Diet

Having a proper diet rich in all nutrients is an absolute prerequisite for a healthy body. Vitamins and minerals in the diet are vital to boost immunity and healthy development; a healthy diet can protect the human body against certain types of diseases, in particular non-communicable diseases such as obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, some types of cancer and skeletal conditions.

There is an old saying, “What you eat is how you become” which rings utterly relevant. All the junk food that keeps going in your body is a torture for the organs. By virtue of having high water content and being the easiest to digest, fresh fruits and vegetables are unparalleled when it comes to food. They take stress off your digestive system especially if you eat them in their raw, natural, organic state.

With Wellness Coaches like nutritionists available to meet with you at your convenience, you can begin to craft your optimal diet with the help of Therapy on Demand.

Drink Moderately, if at All, and Smoking is a Complete NO NO!

When it comes to alcohol, the key is moderation. Certainly, you don't have to drink any alcohol, and if you currently don't drink, don't start drinking for the possible health benefits. In some cases, it's safest to avoid alcohol entirely — the possible benefits don't outweigh the risks.

When it comes to smoking, or “combustion”, The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention links smoking with one in five deaths each year in the United States. Smoking is responsible for most lung cancer deaths and greatly increases your risk of coronary heart disease and stroke. If you do smoke, smoking cessation can reap immediate and long-term benefits.

Sound Sleep

Sleep is one of the most under-rated ingredients when it comes to having a “dis-ease” free body. "Sleep used to be kind of ignored, like parking our car in a garage and picking it up in the morning," says David Rapoport, MD, director of the NYU Sleep Disorders Program. Lack of sleep not only badly affects the normal functioning of the body but also hampers the inherent abilities of the body to cope up with various situations. 6 hours of sound sleep is the desiderata for a smooth and uninhibited day.

Sound sleep also serves to:

  • Consolidate memory, "if you are trying to learn something, whether it’s physical or mental, you learn it to a certain point with practice," says Dr. Rapoport, who is an associate professor at NYU Langone Medical Center. "But something happens while you sleep that makes you learn it better." In other words if you’re trying to learn something new—whether it’s Spanish or a new tennis swing—you’ll perform better after sleeping.
  • And increase life span, “In a 2010 study of women ages 50 to 79, more deaths occurred in women who got less than five hours or more than six and a half hours of sleep per night”.

Self-Control with Compassion

All that is said above is completely useless if we do not have the self-restraint to practice it. We meet a lot of people on a regular basis who seem very worried and conscious about their health, but for a lot of them all their concern is limited to whimsicality. We must have sustained passion and drive within us to control our repeated desires for junk food, alcohol etc and remain self motivated to lead a healthy life. It is the healthy habits we establish that truly are the basis of our overall wellness.

Along with having discipline toward goals, one must adapt an attitude of gratitude – even in our darkest moments. We are social beings, and all need the support of other humans from time to time. Make the choice to start becoming a better YOU today. Book now with Therapy on Demand for instant email confirmation of appointments via secure video conferencing on Google Meet (in-app or on the via Google’s Chrome browser).

Above all, in the middle of all the stress that you face throughout the day, make a conscious effort to be notice the rhythm of your breathing. By simply tuning into breathing for a sustained period of time, a relaxing or “grounding” effect can be achieved (despite external circumstances).

Please take good care of your body; after all it’s the only place you have to live in!

Ready to Learn More? 😊

We understand and appreciate that people are becoming more health conscious nowadays. More often than not, people want to keep tabs on the status of their health and get first-hand information about new and innovative techniques which can help them stay on track, and look after their body in a better manner.

With that in mind, Therapy on Demand regularly provides free screenings and health resources so that people can get rid of their health-related confusions and tread happily on the path of a healthy and happy life. Periodic screening tests can help protect against numerous diseases. Some of these assessments aid the detection of diseases early when they are most treatable; while others prevent them from developing in the first place. For instance, for colorectal cancer alone, regular screening could save over 30,000 lives each year. That’s three times the number of people killed by drunk drivers in the United States in all of 2011. That’s why we encourage our clients to continue regular visits with a reliable primary care doctor, and we work with outside health providers to ensure the best possible outcomes are achieved.

You can interact with our healthcare professionals about which assessments and/or outside screenings might be most applicable to you. To reach our team of screened and certified health professionals (from Psychology, Nutrition, Personal Training, Yoga, Meditation, etc) click here. For your convenience, you can also schedule a session with a customer service team member to ask questions about our services before trying our easy to use service.

Welcome to Your Journey to Wellness with Therapy on Demand

Therapy on Demand is a mobile healthcare company that provides health and wellness services, alongside consulting to medical and non-medical businesses: fully-managed web presences, business plans, virtual and mixed reality, artificial intelligence and blockchain solutions. Created in 2015, Therapy on Demand online and in-home therapy is owned and operated by practicing clinicians and therapists, including those with accreditation in the fields of mental health, occupational, physical, speech and massage therapy; plus home care and healthcare management. Our wellness experts have a combined 150 plus years of experience and participate in ongoing training we require for quality assurance and safety. In this way, our team works collaboratively to provide the most appropriate service, by the best-match provider, with “on-demand” availability through our digital tools that run on virtually any computer or mobile device. Our therapies and counseling provide a holistic client-centered approach to health-care and healing, from the comfort of home. 

Chat Online with Physical Therapists, Counsellors and Health Professionals

We offer specialists, therapist and counsellors who offer online therapy sessions for the treatment and management of such conditions as addiction, anxiety, autism, dementia, depression, autism spectrum disorders, ADD/ADHD, anger management, body dysmorphic disorders, bullying, dementia, eating disorders, intimacy issues, mindfulness, panic attacks, pain management, narcissistic abuse, opioid withdrawal, phobias, sleep disorders and PTSD. We also offer hypnotherapy, bio-feedback, marriage counseling, parental counseling, time management, nutrition, weight loss management and personal and career life coaching.

With regards to online physical therapy, Therapy on Demand also offers online chats with specialists in orthopedic physical therapy (to help manage sports injuries, arthritis, and post-operative joint pain). This is your choice of someone to talk to if you are recovering from fractures, sprains, tendonitis, and bursitis.

We also offer online geriatric physical therapy, neurological physical therapy and cardiovascular and pulmonary rehabilitation, that manage issues to do with aging including arthritis, cancer, hip and joint replacement, balance, and incontinence, patient endurance and functional independence after having a heart attack or stroke.

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Our goal is to provide wellness coaching sessions that are highly secure, private and US HIPAA compliant. At Therapy-On-Demand we highly value the privacy, security, and anonymity of our client. We also guarantee you that our therapies and counseling are 100 percent safe.

Don’t Just Survive, Thrive with a Personal Online Life Coach

Therapy on Demand is not just about recovery. It is also about being your optimum self in all areas of human wellness.  f you want to improve your physical, mental, and emotional well-being through personal coaching sessions, Therapy on Demand is just right for you.  We offer tested and proven therapy sessions with experts in Therapy, Allied Health, Psychology, Nutrition, Fitness, and Yoga that can help you get your life back on the fast track. You can also monitor your health and progress with our mobile app which provides you with custom feedback after each session. We will also match you with the best online therapists and life coaches based on your objectives, type of issues, and preferences to ensure that you choose the best path on your journal to wellness and meet your goals.

Telemedicine

Telemedicine is the use of telecommunication and information technology to provide clinical health care from a distance.

History of Telemedicine

The concept of telemedicine started with the birth of telecommunications technology, the means of sending information over a distance in the form of electromagnetic signals.  In 1925, a cover illustration of the Science and Invention magazine featured an odd invention by Dr. Hugo Gernsback, called the “teledactyl.” The imagined tool would use spindly robot fingers and radio technology to examine a patient from afar, and show the doctor a video feed of the patient. While this invention never got past the concept stage, it predicted the popular telemedicine definition we think of today – a remote video consult between doctor and patient.

Telemedicine Today

Today the telemedicine field is changing faster than ever before. As technology advances at exponential levels, so does the widespread affordability and accessibility to basic telemedicine tools. Telemedicine was originally created as a way to treat patients who were located in remote places, far away from local health facilities or in areas of with shortages of medical professionals. While telemedicine is still used today to address these problems, it’s increasingly becoming a tool for convenient medical care. Today’s connected patient wants to waste less time in the waiting room at the doctor, and get immediate care for minor but urgent conditions when they need it.

Telemedicine Medical Specialties

Telemedicine is used in many different medical fields, throughout ambulatory and hospital settings. there are several key niche telemedicine specialties.

  • Teleradiology
  • Teledermatology 
  • Tele oncology
  • Telerehabilitation
  • Teleobstetrics

Telemedicine saves Time and Money

Telemedicine not only saves time and money for patients, it also benefits the environment.

The health system saw some moderate savings as well. The telehealth appointments cost approximately $24 less per patient.

“We know that telemedicine is often looked to for common childhood ailments, like cold and flu, or skin rashes. But we wanted to look at how telemedicine could benefit patients within a particular specialty such as sports medicine,”

There are several advantages to telemedicine. One of the biggest is it gives you access to specialists and information that you might not readily have access to otherwise. In this way we can save our money.  During a telemedicine consultation, you usually have a chance to tell the doctor about your medical history and ask questions. In turn, the specialist can ask you questions directly. This telemedicine setup is better than trying to relay information to your doctor or nurse, and then having them relay the message. The specialist can hear the sound of your cough or see your swollen eyes. You can hear firsthand about your diagnosis and treatment options. Telemedicine is considered a regular healthcare service. In most cases, it should be billable to your health care insurance without issue. Through this we can save our time. Also, Telehealth services help people access convenient and timely health care via remote consultation. Using telemedicine, health professionals can diagnose and treat conditions like allergic reactions, lacerations, sprains, infections and more. patients can save more money and time by using telemedicine. Programs such as Premium Health Connections, offer affordable plans with premium provider of telemedicine that can help patients reap the various benefits of telemedicine.

Telemedical services to the patient at work, home, or while traveling by phone, or online using a smartphone, tablet, or computer. Our proprietary telehealth program provides greater access to healthcare while reducing healthcare costs.  It has been estimated that telemedicine saves consumers $100 or more per doctor visit. Additionally, because Teladoc connects you with a doctor anytime that's convenient for you and anywhere you have access to a phone, computer or mobile app you can save time and money.

Can we trust Virtual Personal Training and mHealth apps?

Technology is a powerful tool, and most high-tech gadgets could prove to be extremely beneficial or rather harmful and time-wasting. However, since the Internet and social networks are so widely spread, technology can become an ally of fitness and touch the lives of many people at the same time. Virtual personal training delivers appropriate fitness advice with the help of technology gadgets and the Internet. Virtual training and monitoring apps are available to download, and this approach of fitness becomes personal when it takes into account your personal data, sometimes involving direct advice from a trainer.

Likewise, our website is undertaking an even more personal approach to virtual personal training by delivering videochat sessions and virtual access to a personal trainer who will keep track of your progress and vital signs. With this program, you can set up a tablet on a kickstand and learn a personalized home exercise program, or get some motivation for your daily workout routine. But there are many who would say virtual training can’t be personal and it is not to be trusted. Hence, the question arises, how effective are mHealth apps and should we expect good results from virtual personal training? Can we get a response from science?

For many years now, the scientific community has tried to measure how effective virtual training tools can be. A research performed in 2008 assessed the effectiveness of a hand-held personal digital assistant whose function was only to monitor physical activity, provide graphics and suggest behavioral changes. The results after 8 weeks showed that these tools caused real and measurable changes in people’s physical activity, and can be used to motivate sedentary people to stay more active (King, 2008).

Moreover, different strategies have been used, such as web-based interventions and podcasting. In an intriguing study about virtual training through podcasting, the investigators from the University of North Carolina showed that the key to achieve good results is the structure of the information provided. The use of social cognitive theory alongside with accurate data and an intelligent design of the information was paramount to get good results (Turner-McGrievy, 2009). This shows the importance of getting high-quality information from highly qualified professionals, regardless of the type of communication that is being used.

Yet another study from the University of California showed that sedentary people would increase their physical activity when engaging with mobile-based intervention, and this change would remain over a long period of time. The investigators found that one of their groups got greater results by just being reminded to access the information and tutorials weekly, and the most probable cause is a higher self-motivation that led them to change their lifestyles (Patrick, 2013). With a higher engagement and motivation, this type of programs is very likely to modify behaviors and have even better results (Hebden, 2014). So, if you are thinking about Virtual Personal Training as an option, keep in mind that the information might be provided to you, but will only work when you start doing something about it.

Professionals are nowadays reaching more people through innovative ways. There is usually a lot to choose from in the market, but just be certain you stick to the right people. Keep in mind that the main difference between a good program and a lousy one is scientific data, so a final peace of advice would be to look for the evidence. Virtual Personal Training will be a good strategy to reach your health and fitness goals as long as it sticks to the facts and as long as you don’t stop doing your part. So, stay motivated, and remember having all of the information in the tip of your fingers can be the start of a real change when you start moving.

Getting better at the click of a Button

Have you been feeling sick a lot lately? Been stressed at work? When is the last time that you did something you enjoy? All these questions may seem unrelated, but they are interlinked.

When a person is happy, he feels better. His muscles are more relaxed, he feels less pain, and his immunity is strong. All this is true according to the theory of holistic wellness. Holistic wellness suggests that people's health is linked to their emotions and how good they feel about their situations [1]. It's hard to imagine that how sick or healthy you are depends on how you feel [2]. Many people would blame their misery on a sick day on the sickness, not the other way around. However, studies are being conducted to show that how people feel directly impacts on their health by “exploring the conceptual holistic framework relevant to healthcare in the management of chronic disease, and operationalizing it”.[3]

So, how do you get yourself thinking positively to stay healthy? How do you know if you are healthy enough holistically speaking? Traditionally, the answer to that would be to seek out a wellness therapist to let you know if you’re in the right place. If you’re not, he or she could guide you on how to change for the better. These days, traditional face-to-face sessions are not your only option. At Therapy on Demand, we introduce our alternate holistic wellness check bot. Our bot will ask you to answer a few questions to determine your overall holistic health score. The questions will range from how you feel about your physical health to your state of mind, all of which are quantitative indicators of wellness [4].

The wellness check bot is your first step to getting better no matter where or who you are. As a e-health tool, it can be used by people of every age including older people [5]. With a wellness score in hand, you will be on your way to a better life. If you feel that you need a bit of help to improve your wellness score, our dedicated Therapy on Demand therapists will take you through motivational interviewing sessions. They will remotely guide you through improving your life on your own terms. You’ll feel better, and end up doing better at the click of a few buttons.

Sources:

    1. http://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/what-is-holistic-medicine#1
    2. https://nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation/overview.htm
    3. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4768402/
    4. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0898010112453327?journalCode=jhna&
    5. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3228591/


References:
King, A. C., Ahn, D. K., Oliveira, B. M., Atienza, A. A., Castro, C. M., & Gardner, C. D. (2008). Promoting physical activity through hand-held computer technology. American journal of preventive medicine, 34(2), 138-142.

Turner-McGrievy, G. M., Campbell, M. K., Tate, D. F., Truesdale, K. P., Bowling, J. M., & Crosby, L. (2009). Pounds Off Digitally study: a randomized podcasting weight-loss intervention. American journal of preventive medicine, 37(4), 263-269.

Patrick, K., Norman, G. J., Davila, E. P., Calfas, K. J., Raab, F., Gottschalk, M., ... & Covin, J. R. (2013). Outcomes of a 12-month technology-based intervention to promote weight loss in adolescents at risk for type 2 diabetes. Journal of diabetes science and technology, 7(3), 759-770.

Hebden, L., Cook, A., Ploeg, H. P., King, L., Bauman, A., & Allman‐Farinelli, M. (2014). A mobile health intervention for weight management among young adults: a pilot randomised controlled trial. Journal of human nutrition and dietetics, 27(4), 322-332.

8 Secrets to a Healthy Sex Life

Just because you have spent years together, married or not, raising kids and holding down a full job or even maybe a full time and part-time job does not mean that your sex life has to suffer. In fact great sex can invigorate you, cheer you up and give you the impetus to get through long and difficult days. The idea is to make the revival of your sex life as important as anything else in your life, even if means prioritizing it by making a to-do list and dates on your calendar where you will both agree to specifically work on making your love life better.

Yet it is seems that many couples use the very ironic excuse of being too close and committed to a life together, to actually connect physically with each other between the sheets. Intimacy should be part of that commitment to being together, but many couples slip into the compliancy, claiming that they are to old to have sex or that the act now feels boring and routine. This may sound strange, but this is where, even if you don’t feel the least bit lusty, you have to “fake it until you make it.”

One way to keep your sex life from feeling stale, is to start putting some positive energy back into the relationship, which is quite easy if you are already quite affectionate with each other. If you are not as cuddly when you first met each other, simply holding hands or looking into each other’s eyes can remind you of why you came to be attracted to each other in the first place because true love never really dies. With the idea of reignited the flame of passion, that may have grown dim over the years, here are 8 Secrets to Reinvigorating and Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life.

#1. Flirt With Each Other

As Milan Kindara, the author of The Unbearable Lightness of Being once said, “Flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without guarantee.” Yet it is exactly this type of back-and-forth exchange of anticipation that can create a thrilling sense of sexual tension. However, you might be wondering how you could possibly flirt with a person who has seen you do a lot of gross and embarrassing things such as eating an entire pizza by yourself. Here’s the thing; married and serious couples are in it for the long haul and have seen the both the best and worst sides of each other. Also believe it or not, seeing you at your most vulnerable, lazy or most bestial might actually be a turn-on for you partner because it humanizes you. However to arouse your partner, it helps to create a bit of a sense of loss, by sprucing yourself up and taking them out of their comfort zone. The idea is to make him or her think that they cannot rest on their laurels. Let your partner know that he or she can’t take you for granted and make sure you are very well groomed and dressed your best when you do it, by teasing your partner, and then withdrawing away. This in turn will inspire the universal chase.

It is also a good idea to reaffirm your physical attraction to each other every day with kisses, hugs and racier moves such as a little squeeze or slap in the right places. Tracey Cox in her book: Secrets of a Supersexpert; claims that sending a workday sext or going the traditional way of showing affection by placing your hand on your spouse’s thigh during dinner goes a long way in refreshing your sex life making it more exciting (Cox, 2009).

#2. Create Ample Time to Be With Each Other

Everyone keeps a calendar or to-do list but when was the last time that you scheduled in appointment to date your partner? This might sound a bit rote, but it works, especially if you make these meetings a priority over everything else and if you schedule at least one a week. Rather than think about these meetings being appointments for sex, it is a good idea to think of them as being dedicated “quality time.” The willingness to do this is sexy in itself because it expresses devotion and also an intention, which can make you both feel very good about yourselves and the relationship.

Scheduling sex might be a bit too cold and feel like too much pressure for one partner or another. Instead plan real dates, where you formally dress up to go out to dinner. This works because both of you are probably at your most attractive when you look your best. Planning an intimate picnic, with just the two of you alone, also works, especially if you plant to immerse yourself in a bit of nature. Being surrounded by the birds and bees, can actually lead to a romantic interlude. Yet another idea is to do something together that you both enjoy that really gets your adrenalin up, such as watching a scary movie, rock climbing or watching a scary movie. This works because the same biological chemicals that give you that rush of excitement when you are doing something thrilling are also triggered when you are attracted to someone romantically. Although it might seem ironic, actually planning for spontaneity can help you achieve the sort of mind-body connection, which goes a long way in fostering a healthy sex life.

#3. Be Less Predictable and Try A Bit of Sexual Experimentation

If you are always having sex in the same room, in the same positions and in the dark, then don’t be surprised if the passion in your relationship wanes. There are many ways to spice things up is to take a trip away together and so you can cozy up in a romantic locale away from the distractions of taking care of the kids, works, relatives etc. You can also be less predictable about what time of day you have sex. For instance, if you generally have sex at night, try doing it in the afternoon. You can also try having a bath together or making love in the shower.

If you can’t actually go away or change location try dressing up the bedroom a bit with dim lighting, scented candles or satin sheets. You can also try dressing yourself up a bit, maybe wearing sexy lingerie (if you are a woman) and men’s cologne if you are male. A good sex therapist online can provide you with ideas for a better sex life including role-play, mask work and gentle and safe bondage and domination/submission scenarios. Of course it is important that you strike a balance between the conventional and adventurous ways in which you sexually express yourself without alarming your partner or making him or her feel uncomfortable. Still the point of all this is to ensure that you can maintain a healthy regular intimacy over the long-term without being boring or predictable.

You should also be open to different ways which you could express yourself sexually to your spouse. It is recommended that you strike a balance between the conventional and adventurous ways in which you sexually express yourself. You should also ensure that you are both sexually predictable and unexpected to maintain intimacy and not be so boring while you are at it.

#4. Maintain Honest Constant Communication


Tracey Cox, in her book Secrets of a Supersexpert points out that excellent communication is essential for a satisfying sex life (Cox, 2009). Disappointment with your sex life can very often be the result of one partner second-guessing what the other wants, and being way off the mark. This is why it is very important to make a confession to your partner about what it is that you would really like to have happen in bed.

The main reason people fail to talk to each other in bed is because they feel that their lover should have an inbuilt intuition about what satisfies them but the hard truth is that most people are not mind readers. Some people also feel a bit of shame or humiliation when asking their partner for what they want.

Ensure that you talk about everything including things you want your spouse to do to you. Remember that communication is the only way to understand what your spouse really enjoys, wants and needs while the two of you are intimate.

#5 Talk Explicitly About What You Want Your Partner to Do To You

You will be shocked how effective talking explicitly during sex is when it comes to creating a more satisfactory love life. Here you can tell your spouse what you want and how you want it. Diana Hoppe in her critically acclaimed book: Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You, claims that couples should use express a desire in seductive or even dirty language and then proceed to act out whatever was in their explicit suggestion. This also gets couples to communicate about sex which betters their sex life (Hoppe, 2010.)

If you are not sure where to begin when it comes to brainstorming the kind of erotic talk that might suit your partner then a sex therapy chat with an online sex counsellor can help you come with the verbal cues that might best excite your partner. Sex therapy on demand

#6 Take Turns Initiating Intimacy

A guaranteed way to fall into a monotonous pattern is to always let one partner initiate the intimacy. This can be like watching the same movie over and over again (one with a familiar predictable ending.) Just because a particular spouse is the one who often initiates things does not mean that things have to remain that way. Being a little more accepting of who is allowed to initiate intimacy is acceptable when it comes to your sex life since it spices things up and breaks up the monotonous pattern of nobody initiating sex with anyone ever.

According to sex advice expert Lauren Gray in her sex advice blog Mars Venus Blog the majority of the responsibility of initiating sex often falls to the man because it is part of the human sexual narrative that says that men must start things because it is more romantic and sexier when a man takes charge. If your marriage is older, you might not even be entertaining the idea that woman can initiate sex, because not too long ago was once never done. This was partly because it was thought that the man initiating sex made the woman feel more attractive admired and desired. Yet another reason men often say when and how sex should take places because men have levels of testosterone in their body that are thirty times higher then women, which means they also tend to want to initiate sex more often.
Despite the lack of hormonal imperative to initiate sex, women should do it every now and thing to spice things up a little. Keep in mind too that unless he is a bit submissive, that some males might not feel that turned on or even threatened by a female who always initiates sex. The female who is initiating sex might want to make it all into a bit of an occasion, with candles, sexy lingerie and hot music, so that her partner feels like the one who is being chosen to be seduced.

If a man always initiates the sex, the couple runs into the danger that the man might be discouraged by too many refusals from the female. This can give the male the idea that he or she no longer wants him and he may lose the impetus to keep making romantic moves towards her. The same can happen if the woman always initiates sex and she keeps getting rejected. She will get discouraged and leave it to the male to get things started. Obviously both situations can lead to a dry spell in a couple’s sex life that becomes permanent.

#7 Avoid Excuses and Take Rainchecks If Necessary

Couples are fond of using all kinds of excuses to avoid sex such as tiredness, headaches, provoking arguments and work stress. It could be argued that these are the same excuses that should convince your to make your sex life a priority. Sex is practically medicinal by nature, a true stress and pain reliever, and it also tends to help couples settle disagreements and love each other even more than before. Therefore, your best relationship advice is to ensure that making too many excuses do not take a toll on your formerly bubbling hot sex life before it falls completely off the stove.

An online sex therapist will also tell you that you need to be a good sport about rejection and keep assuring your lover that even if you are tired or feeling sick, that the rejection has nothing to do with him or her. Tell him or her how much you really do want to have sex all of the time. Say things directly to your lover such as “I still want to have sex with you all of the time.”, “My body aches for you!”, and “I still dream about you seducing me.” These words will linger in his or her mind and make things even more exciting for the next time you meet between the sheets.

#8 Maintain Trust

Experts in relationship and marriage advice will tell you that when it comes to a healthy sex life, trust is the essential catalyst for keeping the flames of passion burning almost eternally. It is the partner with resentment or who is suspicious that not only appears unattractive to the other but who is also most likely to withhold sex from a partner without explantion. Partners that trust each other also tend to take a sexual rejection less personally Spouses should always strive to build each other up in order to have formidable trust in their relationship as over the long-term this can significantly improve their sex life.

If you would like to talk to someone such as an online sex counsellor and receive couples counselling or relationship therapy on demand then feel free to contact us at (unknown referral link – insert beneath feel free to contact us.) You can an also receive free online sex advice by scheduling an introductory evaluation and session so that you can be introduced the relationship therapy on demand expert that is right for your situation.

References 

  • Cox, T. (2009). Secrets of a Supersexpert. New York: DK Pub.
  • Hoppe, D. (2010). Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You. Encinitas, CA: Health Reflections Press. 
  • Kundara, M. (1984). The Unbearable Lightness of Being. New York: Harper Perennial.

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